A Set of Questions About Falling in Love

A Set of Questions About Dating

 

I saw this set of questions on Mist’s campus page (though he likes to change his name; still, I’ll allow myself to address him this way) (http://blog.xiaonei.com/GetEntry.do?id=341170940&owner=5675), and he didn’t go on to tag anyone else. But looking at these kinds of questions, I thought they might be somewhat helpful in introducing my views on love, so I took the initiative and asked him to tag me~ After all, if I always use my own language and perspective to explain my views on love and such, the things I focus on may be completely at cross purposes with what ordinary people care about. Many of the questions below would never even occur in my line of thought. Yet if some mm wants to understand my attitude toward the things she may care about, borrowing a ready-made, fashionable list of questions like this may be convenient. Although this set of questions seems rather ws overall, it’s better than nothing, I suppose.

 

Game rules:

First: the person tagged is supposed to write their answers in their own blog, then remove one question and add one question, pass it on to 10 people, list their names, and also leave a message on those 10 people’s message boards to notify them. The person tagged may not refuse to answer the questions; otherwise they bear the consequences themselves. Those who complete the game will receive everyone’s blessings

Second: these 10 people should note in their own blogs from which classmate they received the questions, and then come up with one question to pass on to another 10 people, so that the game continues, with no passing it back. Those whose names are tagged will receive everyone’s blessings, and all beautiful wishes will be realized in the near future. Please take this seriously, and don’t be afraid of exposing your privacy

////—Of course, I never pay any attention to these kinds of game rules, especially when they say that obeying the rules will bring blessings, good luck, and the like; the more they say that, the more I am determined not to cooperate—oh, may the devil curse me, Ah Chuang!

 

 

1. Do you want to date now?

  Seeking mm~

2. Do you believe in zodiac signs?

 I don’t play the zodiac-sign game.

3. What do you want to become in your next life?

  What do you mean, next life? Let me get this life sorted out first, and then we’ll talk.

4. If your love is opposed by the adults, what would you do?

  Nothing much. They’ll get used to it sooner or later.

5. When your boyfriend/girlfriend is with another member of the opposite sex, what reaction would you have?

   With them in what way? If it’s intimate contact, of course I’d be jealous, if it happened often. If there were a chance, I might talk to that guy. If he did it unintentionally, then I’d tell him to be sensible and know his limits; if he really meant it, then I’d just turn a blind eye and close the other one as well (I did not say it the other way around).

6. Would you be with someone you don’t love but who deeply loves you?

   Such a situation is impossible. If she could in fact love me deeply, then although I might not be with her, it would be impossible for me not to fall in love with her.

7. Are you the kind of person who can tolerate taking a loss? (This question may not be deleted)

   Why can’t it be deleted? Is this question really that important? What kind of loss? “Taking a loss” refers to loss or injustice, right? Of course, I can tolerate material injustice, though in many situations I still try my best to fight for the rights I deserve. Only in rational argument do I insist on standing on equal footing; of course, that footing can be won entirely by myself, so I won’t complain about taking a loss.

8. Do you pay attention to personal hygiene (such as hair, clothes, hands, etc.)? Do you pay attention to how your clothes are coordinated?

   No…

9.Are you the kind of person who values romance over friendship?

   If what this notion means is always putting my girlfriend at a higher priority than my brothers and friends, then of course I am.

10.How long will you stay with a TA?

   Until she chooses to leave.

11.If you meet someone you like, what will you do?

   Act on impulse, I suppose. In the first place, “meeting someone I like” is not a situation that can be analyzed and defined rationally; under such circumstances, action is of course not suitable for prior rational planning.

12.If you knew you two would break up later, would you still get together in the first place?

    Stupid question. I’m not a witch who can foresee the future—how would I know what will happen later?

13.(For boys) Can you accept marrying a non-virgin?

    (For girls) Would you rather your boyfriend had had girlfriends before, or had never had one?

    Nonsense, of course I can.

14.Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t?

    ××○○…

15.Do you believe that no matter how long time passes or how far apart they are, true friendship will never deteriorate?

    True friendship, of course, can transcend time and space. But it is absolutely not “something that will never deteriorate”; as time and circumstances change, friendship is bound to undergo a qualitative transformation. The only question is how exactly it changes. It is like a vat of rice: left long enough, it may turn into vinegar, or it may ferment into wine, or it may simply mold and stink… all of these count as deterioration. If all you know is to hope that a vat of rice left for decades will still be the very same vat of rice, then I’m afraid it will be hard to obtain true friendship; everything becomes an illusion.

16.What kind of TA do you like?

   A boring question (Mist, why didn’t you delete this one…)

17.Are you sure you can trust the other person unconditionally?

    That depends on what “trust” means. If trust means believing that the other person will always be able, as I wish, to act in accordance with my standards or ideals, then I will try my best not to trust her. What I mean by trust is believing in her consistency as herself—believing that when she smiles or cries at me, she is indeed doing so from the heart and not deceiving me; believing that every word she says is indeed sincere, and even if she does conceal something, she must have some other reason, and it certainly is not in order to hurt me. Such “trust” I am certainly capable of.

18.Would you accept a long-distance relationship? Do you think a long-distance relationship can last?

    Accept it.

19.If it’s someone you truly like, would you let them go?

    Of course. If she wants to leave me of her own will, I won’t stop her. As long as I am certain that she is indeed acting of her own free will.

20.What is your biggest wish right now?

    That the blue light-emitting diode in the bedroom ceiling lamp could miraculously come back to life again, sparing me the trouble of repairing it…

21.Can you completely and thoroughly pour out the thing you cherish most in your heart?

   
e=”font-family: 宋体”>No. The power of language is extremely limited.

22.Please use 3 adjectives to describe the person you named (required question)

    Eerie, pretentious, and a logicism without logic.

23.Are you satisfied with the current situation?

    Content and at ease, but of course still not satisfied.

24.Would you take care of all the housework yourself out of heartache for the other person?

    Depends on the situation, I guess. Anyway there isn’t much housework; at worst I’ll just order more takeout…

25.When you run into an immature her (him), how long can you endure it?

    What counts as mature? People who think they’re mature are even harder to bear, aren’t they?

28.If you like someone but can’t be together, what would you do?

    Do nothing. What else can you do? We’ll see when the time comes.

29.If you love someone, would you accept everything about him (her)? Except betrayal     

    I would accept everything about her, including betrayal.

 

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