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  • Draft Program for an Old-School Philosophy

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    Draft Program for an Old-School Philosophy

    If I were recruiting a crew, of course I would need to explain what sort of style and route this ship more or less has. When it comes to a program, it is actually a rather ambiguous thing: it is either too general or too specific. It can be condensed to a single character, “love” or “I”; to two characters, “freedom” or “seeking”; to three, “play games” or “possibility”; to four, “preserve sameness while seeking difference” or “strive for excellence”; to five, “know yourself” or “that old bear of a mother-in-law,” and so on. Any of these could be posted as a slogan at the entrance to Suixuan. Of course,…

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  • Supplementary Notes and Self-Introduction Following “Zheng mm”

    Supplementary Notes and Self-Introduction Following “Zheng mm”
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    Supplementary Notes and Self-Introduction Following “Zheng mm”

    坦白说,我的征mm启事发得实在缺乏诚意,本来想好在谈完“概念问题”之后就谈谈自己的个性和特点的,结果扯了一通概念后发泄完毕,就不想写别的了,结果整个启事连同诠释在内关于我个人情况的介绍几乎就只有第1条这么点儿——当然,这一句话包含了最为核心的部分。 当然,即便对我的各种情况毫不了解,只是看了启事就来应征的人,我也是欢迎的,只不过在随后的接触中我早晚也一定会把我的各种特点展示给她看。而对mm来说,如果能够事先看过我的介绍,心中有数再来应征,总比接触之后再被我吓走来得更好。所以我现在还是多少先说明一些吧。 Supplementary notes and self-introduction following the “seeking mm” notice 坦白说,我的征mm启事发得实在缺乏诚意,本来想好在谈完“概念问题”之后就谈谈自己的个性和特点的,结果扯了一通概念后发泄完毕,就不想写别的了,结果整个启事连同诠释在内关于我个人情况的介绍几乎就只有第1条这么点儿——当然,这一句话包含了最为核心的部分。 当然,即便对我的各种情况毫不了解,只是看了启事就来应征的人,我也是欢迎的,只不过在随后的接触中我早晚也一定会把我的各种特点展示给她看。而对mm来说,如果能够事先看过我的介绍,心中有数再来应征,总比接触之后再被我吓走来得更好。所以我现在还是多少先说明一些吧。 Before introducing myself, let me first say a few more words about what I think of mm’s or applicants’ side of things. As I said before, I do not preset any standard for “what the relationship between an mm and me ought to be”; as for “what it even means to be an ‘applicant,’” I am even less in possession of any definite concept. Obviously, the mere fact that you say “I’m applying” and I say “Sure” does not mean the establishment of any more specific relationship. The question is, then what? In short, whether as “mm”…

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  • 【This event has ended】[Paused][Unpinned][Pinned 3] Seeking mm~【This event has ended】

    【This event has ended】[Paused][Unpinned][Pinned 3] Seeking mm~【This event has ended】
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    【This event has ended】[Paused][Unpinned][Pinned 3] Seeking mm~【This event has ended】

    一、Announcement 1.  Male. Born in ’85. Philosophy of science and technology at Peking University. Suixuan Gucha. Born in Shanghai, settled in Beijing. I love wisdom, books, and cartoons. 2.  Seeking one mm. 3.  No conditions, no requirements (except those conditions that are analytically included within the ordinary understanding of the concept mm). 4.  This post will remain in force until the blog entry is closed. 5.  Reposting and circulation are welcome, but only this announcement section may be reposted, with the source indicated as EPR.ycool.com. 6.  Aside from interested parties or people interested in introducing someone to me, I will not report related progress to any other friends. 7.  Contact…

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  • The Joy of “Dissatisfaction”

    The Joy of “Dissatisfaction”

    In my philosophy, “love” is an extremely central concept. A detailed exposition of this concept has not yet been worked out; but to give a preliminary indication, one may say that before we get to the level of “overflow” and “outpouring,” that is, before speaking of “giving” or “offering oneself,” the most primitive and basic meaning of “love” is after all “desire” and “need,” and its root is “dissatisfaction.” What I want to talk about here is precisely this “dissatisfaction.” People usually regard “dissatisfaction” as a bad state, associating it with pain and resentment; correspondingly, “satisfaction” is seen as a good state, associated with comfort and happiness. Yet I say:…

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  • A Third Discussion of the Olympics: Gold Medals and Patriotism

    A Third Discussion of the Olympics: Gold Medals and Patriotism

    This “third essay” was begun not long after the “second essay” was finished, and then written fitfully until today, taking well over ten days in all. So there is no need to be surprised at the confusion of thought in this piece. Generally speaking, the faster I write an article, the more coherent and fluent its line of thought is — on the one hand, precisely because the thought is flowing smoothly, it becomes possible for it to pour out in a torrent; on the other hand, too many interruptions make a line of thought that was already not entirely smooth become even more fragmented. But in any case, since…

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  • Scattered Reflections on Love and Hate During My Retreat

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    Scattered Reflections on Love and Hate During My Retreat

    To write a long essay on the idea of “love,” the conception of this project began at least three years ago. But because of fluctuations in my thinking and other factors, I could not bring myself to start. Only just before my period of seclusion did I finally set down an “introductory note” and begin formally brewing this essay. What I post below is a tiny germ produced in the course of that brewing. The formulations here mainly come from the opportunity to exchange views with UNIC, and those exchanges also led to her distancing herself from me. Of course, all contextual information has been cut away; in any case,…

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  • “United in Hatred Against the Enemy” and “Hating Evil as Though It Were an Enemy”: I Can’t Do That.

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    “United in Hatred Against the Enemy” and “Hating Evil as Though It Were an Enemy”: I Can’t Do That.

    Friends who have long followed Suixuan will probably already have noticed that Unic, who used to be a regular here and once declared how much she agreed with my views and how much she supported my blog, suddenly became so agitated after I came back from my period of seclusion that she eventually left Suixuan. Some people may wonder: what on earth happened? In fact I was quite astonished myself; I really had underestimated a girl’s emotional reactions. But there was nothing to be done about it. Gentleness and deference may put others at ease, but they cannot help them reach a decision. And since she was facing the college…

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  • [U.S.] Erich Fromm: The Art of Loving——☆

    [U.S.] Erich Fromm: The Art of Loving——☆

    [U.S.]Erich Fromm: The Art of Loving, translated by Li Jianming , Shanghai Translation Publishing House2008, April,15 yuan—☆ Because The Art of Loving is easy to find online in electronic form, which saves me quite a bit of typing work, I therefore include more block quotations. The passages I would have selected if I had typed them myself are marked with underlining; the especially important parts are marked in bold; and my comments, as always, are set in Kai type.   Preface, page1    This book will surely disappoint every reader who expects to derive from it the secret of mastering the art of loving. Quite the contrary, this book wants to…

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  • Only when one can love the whole world and all people can one truly love a single person.

    Only when one can love the whole world and all people can one truly love a single person.

    “If I truly love one person, then I also love other people; I will love the world and love life. If I can say to one person, ‘I love you,’ then I should also be able to say, ‘In you I love all people, the world, and myself.’” — Fromm That passage above really sounds as if I had said it myself. In fact, I had already said something similar long ago; it’s just that although I read The Art of Loving, I didn’t notice this sentence from Fromm at the time. Clearly, it points to my view very succinctly. Why am I deliberately singling out this sentence? I want…

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  • “Love” as the Ultimate Meaning

    “Love” as the Ultimate Meaning

    “Love” as the Ultimate Meaning

    What is the meaning of asking about the meaning of a thing? Broadly speaking, it is asking why one does this thing. But the purpose of a thing is often very hard to determine: the meaning of eating is to eliminate hunger, or to increase nutrition, or to satisfy taste, or perhaps to serve several purposes at once. At the same time, meaning can be further questioned. For example, if I say eating is for the sake of increasing nutrition, then one can ask again: what is the meaning of increasing nutrition? Continuing to ask about the meaning of increasing nutrition, one might answer that it is for the sake…

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